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Your EQ And The Saboteur-Sage Dynamic

Updated: Dec 22, 2023

Let’s discuss something crucial for personal and professional success yet often overlooked: Emotional Intelligence (EQ). EQ is the unsung hero of our skill set, and it's about time we give it the spotlight it deserves. Yesterday, I attended a monthly LIVE session with the founder and CEO of Positive Intelligence and an NYT best-selling author, Shirzad Chamine. The topic was Emotional Intelligence.

To understand how to enhance EQ, let's first explore its four core competencies: Self-Awareness, Self-Management, Social Awareness, and Relationship Management.

Self-Awareness: Your Inner Mirror

Self-awareness is about knowing yourself intimately – your emotions, strengths, weaknesses, drives, values, and goals. It’s like having an inner mirror that reflects not just the surface-level 'you' but the depths of your emotional being.

Self-Management: Steering Your Emotional Ship

Self-management is about being in control of your emotions instead of being at their mercy. It's the ability to manage your emotional reactions to situations and people.

Social Awareness: The Empathy Lens

Social Awareness is your ability to accurately pick up on emotions in other people and understand what is really going on with them. This means looking past the surface to understand the true emotional undercurrents.

Relationship Management: The Art of Connection

Lastly, Relationship Management is the ability to use your awareness of your own emotions and those of others to manage interactions successfully. It’s the art of connection.

The Role of Healthy EQ in Business Success

In the competitive arena of business, a healthy EQ isn't just a nice-to-have, it's a must-have. Emotional intelligence is the undercurrent that powers your ability to build and maintain client relationships. For instance, by truly understanding and managing your own emotions, you authentically engage with clients – becoming someone relatable and trusted. Moreover, healthy EQ enables you to tailor your services to the precise requirements of your ideal client, ensuring that you're not just providing a service, but delivering value that resonates on a personal level. In essence, cultivating your EQ allows you to serve your clients with a deeper understanding and a more personal touch, setting you apart in a marketplace where authenticity and connection are the currency of choice.

How Inner Saboteurs Are Affecting Your EQ

Self-sabotage is the stealthy thief of emotional intelligence, often going unnoticed as it chips away at the pillars of EQ. For instance, the Hyper Vigilant Saboteur sets up shop right where self-confidence seeks to bloom, infusing it with fear and doubt. It's that insidious voice questioning every decision, casting shadows of anxiety over your thoughts, leaving you hesitant to voice your ideas for fear of saying something wrong. This saboteur doesn't just erode your confidence; it undermines your self-awareness and self-management by distorting your perception of your abilities and worth.

Meanwhile, the Pleaser Saboteur impacts relationship management, another EQ cornerstone. It compels you to seek approval and avoid conflict at the expense of authenticity. While it masquerades as a benevolent force, it often leads to neglecting your own needs and can result in resentment. The Pleaser clouds your judgment, making it challenging to set healthy boundaries – a vital aspect of managing relationships effectively. By identifying and understanding these saboteurs through the Mindset Makeover program, you can begin to disarm their influence, allowing your true emotional intelligence to lead the way toward more fulfilling personal and professional relationships.

How Can You Improve Your EQ?

Between these four main EQ categories, there are no less than 18 competencies! So improving your EQ seems quite the task. Which competency should you start with, and how long will that take? Enough to overwhelm even the best of us. In comes my Mindset Makeover program, which revolves around the world renowned PQ® Program. This isn't just another self-help fad; it's a science-backed, mental fitness program that has proven to change the game. Working at the root cause of self-sabotage, this program guarantees your success in improving your EQ.

Consider this compelling statistic: 98% of participants in the PQ® program reported improvements in their EQ competencies. That's a staggering number! And we're not just talking about minor improvements: an average of 92% reported increased self-awareness, 89% better self-management, 90.5% heightened social awareness, and an average of 80.8% experienced improvements in their relationship management*.

It’s Easier Than You Think

What if I told you that experiencing these improvements in your EQ is easier than you think? How about you can achieve all of the above within 6-7 weeks? In comes my Mindset Makeover Program: Ten personalized coaching sessions backed up by the app-based PQ® Program will guide you towards guaranteed success. Within a few short weeks, you’ll not only recognize your Saboteurs, but you’ll be able to take back control of your mind and shift to your inner Sage. Resulting in positive effects on competencies within all four of the EQ categories. How? The Program offers you an opportunity to engage with these competencies on a deeper level, at the root cause, fostering a shift from sabotage to sage-like clarity and control. It’s an investment in yourself that yields postitive change in all areas of your life!

Recognizing the role of inner Saboteurs in dimming your emotional brilliance is a game-changer in the quest to enhance your EQ. Mindset Makeover isn't just a program in this regard; it's a promise to yourself – a promise that you are ready to embrace a life where you're the master of your mind, not the other way around. Are you ready to experience the change? Your inner Sage is waiting for you.

*Source: Positive Intelligence LLC


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